A Perfect Date!

Random Saturday: Finally, he asked me out. Where will he take me? Oh, I don’t make very good first impressions. What if I throw it all away just because I make some joke he doesn’t get? Screw it, I gotta get ready. Can’t be late on the first date.

I have to really wash my hair, but it does turn out to be frizzy the day I wash it. I should have washed it last night. How do girls figure out the perfect time to wash their hair? I can’t seem to crack this algorithm. Of course, pimple breakout—it’s PMS time. Should I conceal it? What if he gets the wrong idea that I’m into too much makeup? They say boys don’t like it. But if I don’t do it, he might think I didn’t take the effort to look my best. Why is this so complex? Why can’t this process be fast, so I just meet someone, fall in love, and reach a stage where I can be with him even when my eyebrows aren’t done?

What should I talk to him about on a first date? His likes? My likes? All these thoughts come to mind while applying mascara… It’s a little too much to think of, isn’t it? Damn it, I can’t apply eyeliner ever. Can I mention to him that I am looking for something serious? Oh, but wait, what if I freak him out and he doesn’t even text me back, like ever? This will just add to my already existing long list of insecurities. I did a good job and was looking my best, I must say 🙂

Will he get me flowers? Oh no, don’t raise your expectations. Men don’t get it. But is it fair to judge him just on that? Okay, he did not get flowers, but he did say he would pick me up even when his house is on the opposite end of the city. He definitely is a gentleman. Well, I could not have asked him for a huge favor. The idea of perfection is not humanly possible. The first date is to see how the other person wants to be loved, rather than to expect them to know how you want to be loved. It’s their idea of a perfect date and not ours. Look at you, trying to defend a person you barely know. Stop lowering your expectations, that’s what my girls would say. But he might genuinely not like you; it is very much possible so don’t overthink it. Forget it, the cab is here.

It’s so much pressure to love someone in their love language. Isn’t it strange that in your 20s, when you are trying to figure out your own love language, that’s when you ought to find your partner’s love language as well? All these thoughts, while stuck in traffic, that’s when my eyes came across a couple crossing the road, hand in hand. The girl was smiling ear to ear, being carefree, not worrying about cars crossing the roads, because somehow she knows the guy would make sure nothing happens to her. I mean, of course, this girl, when alone, would be so vigilant about her surroundings, but when she is with her partner, that’s the most girl she will ever feel. How many dates would it have taken to reach here? Or perhaps how many fights?

It was a pretty little cafe, good choice I must say. As he was talking to the staff to get our table ready, I was wondering if he really is so sweet to anyone random or if this is all just an act. Oh come on, when will you allow someone to get under your skin, like ever? You are gonna die alone if you scrutinize every little good thing he does, thinking it is too good to be true. You lost friends because of this, remember? He remembered I told him I liked pasta, he pre-ordered it. That’s an effort. And he made sure it had extra veggies because he knows I am trying to eat healthy. Men can be quite impressive when they genuinely listen. The conversations we had were pretty good, surrounded around what kind of person we think we are rather than trying to focus on his achievements and describing how great he is. He was quite humble and genuinely showed interest in knowing about me, and so did I. Not once did he touch his mobile phone. For all boys reading this, yes, girls notice these things. We are quite simple contrary to what the world would like to believe.

Oh, the bill has come. I see the entire internet filled with questionnaires to random people, asking if they think it is okay to split the bill, if the guy should pay it, or if the girl should pay it? I generally have opinions for everything around me, but this, no way. I have no opinion on this. It entirely depends on the dynamics two people share. I mean, if you purely think financially, if you feel like there is going to be a second date, you can let the person who asked out pay it this time, and you can take care of it the next time. But if this is the last time you are ever gonna meet this person, splitting would be a better idea. But again, as I said, no opinions. But hey, let’s see what my date thinks. Well, he said that the next date is on me. If the person who is paying is saying this, maybe he did like me after all.

I would call this a perfect date. There was respect, good conversations, good food, good old chivalry, new world opinions, and oh yes, he did get me flowers, and so did I.

PS: This is not about a real date 🙂